NEW BEGINNINGS

NEW BEGINNINGS

by

Natasha J. Rosewood


This is the first day of the rest of your life. And although this is a cliché, it is true that we don’t have to wait for New Year or a birthday or the last Friday of the month to decide on a new direction for our lives. According to the Buddhists, life means suffering, in the ego mind at least.

Until we aspire to become detached from and connected to each other at the same time, we tend to suffer from the illusion of separation and aloneness. Many fears, though they appear as realities, ultimately fade back into the ether. And in the end we realize that it is our minds that are making it all up. Most of it is just an illusion.

“When we remember we are all mad, the mysteries of life disappear and life stands explained,” Mark Twain wrote in his Notebook, (1898.)

There is real pain, of course. Those of us who have lost loved ones through death, separation or betrayal would know. Sometimes pain might have taken the form of job loss, diminished health, a changed lifestyle or eroded confidence. For those people without families--and often those with families—anniversaries can be hell. Often memories, happy or tragic, can leave a void in our hearts. Most of us survive these bad times, physically at least. So if we perceive ourselves, or our lives, to be lacking in some regard, how can we rise above that and make our spirits soar?

It could be time for a new beginning.

We can choose a happier experience, not just for tomorrow but for every moment of our lives. If we want to change our reality, we have to change our ways of thinking.

Whatever your current reality--whether you are grieving for a lost relationship or open for your next one, rich or broke, lonely or loved, on track or directionless, in shape or overweight, clinging to the past or excited about your future--know that you are the writer, producer and director and star of your own movie. Your life is your story. And this current reality is just one scene which too shall pass. And if you want your story to be more inspired, think about changing your script and writing this next scene into your plot.

It’s Oscar night. And you have been nominated for best performer in the movie of your life. You are backstage in a huge auditorium and your name has been called to go on stage. You know that many in the audience are your friends and family--even those who have caused you grief in the past. Amongst the spectators are those who have passed on but who are here in spirit to honor you. The applause is very loud and reverberates throughout the house.

Before you step out from the wings onto the stage, you check your reflection in a full-length mirror. You love what you see. You are amazed and proud at how radiant you look in your stunning new outfit. You are your ideal weight. You feel strong and fit and exude a healthy glow. Your eyes sparkle back at you with joy and excitement, knowing that you are about to be celebrated by all these people who know you.

As you walk out on stage, the applause for you rises to a roaring crescendo. The noise is almost deafening. You can feel the love like a wave washing over you. The ten most significant people in your life, your enemies as well as your friends, are on stage to greet you. They offer you a large throne-like chair to sit in while you listen to their acknowledgments.

They praise you for, not just the resources you had, but what you had to overcome. They pay tribute to not merely your talents but how hard you had to work to become the best you could be. They honor you for your courage, your determination after each fall to get up and keep going, to do whatever it took to live your life on your terms. The people who were your worst enemies tell you how proud they are of you for having turned adversity into opportunity, how forgiving and compassionate you were when their fears of powerlessness caused them to be jealous of your successes. They tell you and the audience that you are an inspiration to them, having empowered them by example, to overcome their own fears and live their lives to the fullest.

As you are presented with the Oscar, the last of your ten presenters applauds you for having motivated so much generosity in others, not just by sharing your wealth but also offering your support to those who needed it. “The more you have, the more you give and that is an inspiration for all of us to be successful. You symbolize the true meaning of power and,” the presenter says, “ you exemplify how, if we believe in ourselves, if we walk through our fears, and we live life to the fullest, we too can achieve what appears to be the impossible.”

The applause is still ringing in your ears as you accept your Oscar for being the greatest performer in the movie of your life.

There. How does that feel?

If you want to get on the red carpet and be on stage at your version of “Oscar Night,” visualize this scene on a daily basis. What we focus on becomes our reality.

The following are ten New Resolutions, new ways of thinking, that will help you create your new reality and a new beginning in your life. You might want to post them on your fridge.

Commit and the Universe commits with you. Decide right now that this is a new beginning. Setting your intention on having what you really want in your life this year is the first step.

Clarify. Get clear about what you want, not what you don’t want. What we observe and focus on expands in our experience.

Act as if. Get into the feelings of success, love, great health, abundance and peace. Choose to be at peace with success. Go about your day visualizing that what you desire already exists.

Be grateful. Gratitude is the foundation of abundance. Say Thank you, thank you, thank you for what has already manifested and the good that is to come.

Clean out your garbage. Forgive, release, let go of any persons, things or thoughts that are not positive, do not feed you or support your happiness. You are flying upwards and forwards. Don’t allow any drag to bring you down.

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Embrace the adventure of life. Take a risk. Do things that scare you. Do things “in spite of.” Do things that you always put off. Then reward yourself for finally having done it.

Select a mentor/supporter. Enroll someone who truly wants you to be successful and who will not let you give up on yourself or your dream when you want to.

Ask your angels. We all have support from spirit guides, departed loved ones and angels. Ask them to bring you what you need, want, desire. Put in your order with the Universe. Do what is within your power and surrender the rest to those higher beings. Then just wait for divinely guided outcomes.

Change your beliefs. You can tell what your beliefs are by the results in your life. If you are not getting the results you want, choose a belief that does support you, your perception and then your reality. It’s your script and your movie. Your choice.

Remind yourself of your successes. Stand in front of your mirror every morning and tell your reflection just how wonderful, intelligent, good-looking and abundant you are. (The Oscar night rehearsal!) Verbally list all the things of which you are proud. As a spark of a higher power--whichever name you have for that--and star in your own movie, you are an Oscar winner!

Happy New Life!

SEPARATING PEACEFULLY

by
Natasha J. Rosewood

Parting can be such sweet sorrow . . . or hell on earth. The only constant is change. But because we are always either infecting or affecting others, it is how we deal with those changing relationships that reflect what we are really made of.

All kinds of people come and go in our lives, some leaving footprints in our hearts and some leaving a hole in our souls and/or our bank accounts. So what price do we pay for perpetrating more anger and hurt during a separation? We can make a different choice. We can choose to separate peacefully.

Although each separation is as unique as the individuals involved—the following tips offer a way to leave our relationships with grace and our souls intact.

1. Don’t leave it too late. Take positive action while you still have something to salvage in the relationship.
2. Focus on a higher purpose than yourself.
   E.g. Your children or world peace. Then keep your eye and heart on the goal. Don’t waver from that vision!
3. Remove yourself from the game. Walk away from the who-did-or-didn’t-do-what power (less) struggle. If you have safety concerns while dealing with the other person, contact your local social services.
4. Treat the other person as able and willing. People often unconsciously respond and behave according to that higher version of themselves.
5. Speak the truth with compassion. When communicating your grievances, use the sandwich technique; positive (e.g. I appreciate you for this . . .), negative (However, I feel hurt/angry/disrespected when you) and always finish with positive (I would like to . . . remain friends/thank you for . . .).
6. Take responsibility for your part in the breakdown of the relationship. Once we accept our part in creating the problem, we also have the power to solve it.
7. Welcome the opportunity to grow. Whether we are the "dumper" or the "dumpee," we can acknowledge that this milestone is an opportunity for a new life.
8. Say thank you for all that person has taught you. Give each other something good to take away from the relationship. Be specific and be generous in your praise.
9. Give above and beyond. “Generosity is the virtue that creates peace,” say the Buddhists. Give more than is fair or expected or what the lawyer tells you. (If you follow these tips, you won’t need a lawyer.)
10. Embrace the FEAR. (Fictional Evidence Appearing Real) Be aware of what your fear is and ask yourself if it is, indeed, real. Only deal in facts, not emotions.
11. Ask for help. You are probably hurting. The physical equivalent of what you are experiencing might be having your skinned ripped off, exposing raw nerves. Get support from counselors, friends, family or strangers. You are not alone unless you choose to be.
12. Be kind to yourself and the other person. If you are the dumper, you may have being going through the leaving-grieving process for years. If your loved one is ambushed by your departure, give them time to catch up and come to terms with it. Be gentle in all your dealings.
    The greatest gift of all in separating peacefully is knowing that although the context of your relationship has changed, you can look back with pride. Perhaps you have inspired others to do the same. Because if peace begins with you, here is your opportunity to bring peace to the world. Amen/Awomen!

Natasha J. Rosewood is an International Psychic Coach, Facilitator and Author of Aaagh! I Think I’m Psychic (And You Can Be Too). For details about her services, to purchase her book or subscribe to her newsletter visit: www.natashapsychic.com.

GETTING UNSTUCK

By

Natasha J. Rosewood

“What kind of people come to see you?” skeptics sometimes ask, the tone of voice implying that I only consult with lunatics. “People from all walks of life, “I respond oh-so-patiently, “Male and female, young and old, rich and not-so-rich, powerful and famous come with all kinds of queries. But it’s not a matter of who comes but the issues they come with,” I add. “A common one for a lot of people is “feeling stuck,” not knowing which way to go in life.”
“And what do you tell them?”

“That they are in good company. And stuckness is part of the process.”
Psychic or not, sometimes my own future is indefinable. I just don’t know. Or that’s what I tell myself anyway. Some hidden fear may be lurking in my unconscious mind and creating a smokescreen.

Metaphorically, energy or “chi” is like a flowing river. When we feel stuck, the flow of that river is caught in an eddy. Our chi is going around and around in circles and being sucked down into a bottomless vortex.

Remember, though, this is only your mind telling you that you are stuck. Energy by its very definition means motion and, therefore, cannot stay still. “Stuckness” is just an illusion and sometimes, merely a judgment of where you have not yet arrived. Your ego mind, your conscious waking-state chatters at you, berating you constantly with “I should be doing. . . ” or “what’s wrong with me?” or “I don’t know…” et al.

But stuckness does not have to be suffered. It can be celebrated.

The good news is that feeling stuck is part of the human process and, believe it or not, serves a purpose. Stuckness is about standing still for a while and allowing us to take stock. In our Western culture and our headlong rush towards success and then death, (not always in that order) we do not allow ourselves permission to not know our destination. And if you resist your stuckness, it will only expand.

So just for today, give yourself permission to see your situation differently. Sit down, put your feet up, take a load off and read the following ten tips to honoring stuckness.
Accept what is now. Everything is in perfect divine right order. Therefore, you are not stuck, just resting.

1. Accept what is now. Everything is in perfect divine right order. Therefore, you are not stuck, just resting.
2. Let your life unfold naturally. If you are unable to make a decision, it means you do not have all the information yet. Wait and trust.
3. Ask for help. Consult your psychic, coach, counselor, spirit guides or angels. Be open to a different perspective.
4. Throw an “idea party.” Brainstorm, exchange ideas, give and receive support.
5. Invite someone you admire to be your mentor. (Most people love to give advice!)
6. Recognize that you are not stuck, merely regrouping and preparing for a new life. Be thankful for the pause and know that what is yours will come to you.
7. Decide to see your life as a movie and write your dreams into your script.
   Be honest with yourself. What do you really, really want?
8. Pursue the most exciting and/or scary options.
9. Feel the fear and, even if you are you terrified of success or happiness, do it anyway. That’s the time when you will feel really ALIVE!
10. Take one action every day towards that bigger picture. No matter how small the deed, you are still moving forward.
    And you are no longer stuck.
    
    Natasha J. Rosewood is an International Psychic Coach, Facilitator and Author of Aaagh! I Think I’m Psychic (And You Can Be Too). For details about her services, to purchase her book or subscribe to her newsletter visit: www.natashapsychic.com.